Am I too cynical?
I've been debating writing this blog for a few days. I'm not really sure where to begin, or if I can get the wording right, or if it'll even make sense. I think it's worth taking a chance on, though, for my benefit--and maybe for your's.
A few days ago a friend and I were having a discussion over a relationship which I had long ago decided was doomed. He called me too cynical, and my response was "If they're still together in a year, then you can say that." But that got me thinking... what if they are still together in a year?
Could I be wrong? Could a relationship work? Am I, in fact, too cynical?
I posed the question to a few of my friends today. The responses ranged from a flat out "Yes" to a straight-to-the-point "No." I was also called jaded, realistic, and told that I have a "good mixture of cynicism and good thinking."
What does all this mean? That I'm right, wrong, neither? This my just be the cynicism in me coming out, but all of the people that said I was too cynical are in a relationship. That personally skews their vote in my opinion.
Logically speaking, it's obvious that I'm not too cynical. I decided to spend a minute thinking about all of my friends' relationships that have ended from the time I started college until today. Then I tallied all of the ones that have lasted longer than a year (once again, only spending a minute). Finally, I wrote down the number that have lasted longer than a year and are still "in progress." The numbers, you'll find, side with me.
A few days ago a friend and I were having a discussion over a relationship which I had long ago decided was doomed. He called me too cynical, and my response was "If they're still together in a year, then you can say that." But that got me thinking... what if they are still together in a year?
Could I be wrong? Could a relationship work? Am I, in fact, too cynical?
I posed the question to a few of my friends today. The responses ranged from a flat out "Yes" to a straight-to-the-point "No." I was also called jaded, realistic, and told that I have a "good mixture of cynicism and good thinking."
What does all this mean? That I'm right, wrong, neither? This my just be the cynicism in me coming out, but all of the people that said I was too cynical are in a relationship. That personally skews their vote in my opinion.
Logically speaking, it's obvious that I'm not too cynical. I decided to spend a minute thinking about all of my friends' relationships that have ended from the time I started college until today. Then I tallied all of the ones that have lasted longer than a year (once again, only spending a minute). Finally, I wrote down the number that have lasted longer than a year and are still "in progress." The numbers, you'll find, side with me.
- Longer than a year: 5
- In progress after a year: 3
- Ended: 23
Remember, that's all I could think of in a minute. There are no doubt more than that. (These are also gay relationships, but since most of my friends are gay, I think it works).
So out of 28 relationships, 3 are still going strong after a year. That's a little over 10%--not a promising number at all. Especially since the actual number of ended relationships is no doubt much, much higher.
So...realistic or cynical? You decide.
posted by Josh at 11:16 PM
1 Comments:
You are not too cynical you are too Carrie from Sex and the City if they bring it back I will suggest they hire you as their new writter.
P.S-You are not too cynical. . . and people who aren't cynical enough are just annoying so there:)
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